Me and this girl have become friends over the past semester. I am a med student, and she is pre med. So anyway, we’ve become friends. We get along really well. She thinks my friends are cool. We’ve spent time alone and open up to each other easily.
Lately I think we’ve been getting closer. Like she seems a little more playful. Maybe it’s just me. But anyway, I told her I had learned to cook, and she was excited. She said that I should demonstrate for her. One thing lead to another, and when break is over she is coming over and we are going to cook dinner for each other.
Here’s the thing. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship. We aren’t kids. Just both kinda shy and busy. I don’t think either of us is good at sending signals or reading them. I don’t even know if she really likes me.
I want this dinner to go well. So I chose a new recipe to make for her. I’ve asked the roommates to be out for the evening. I have something nice to wear. And I was planning on us watching a movie together, like before dessert or something.
Is there anything else I should or shouldn’t do? What can I do to find out if she is interested in me or not?
That sounds really cozy and prefect. I think you should make something fun, with a lot of spices and then a really messy dessert, so it will be cute when she has powder all over her face!
You shouldn’t act like it isn’t a date. Show your feelings subtly. Flirt with her, let her catch you looking at her in a ‘I think you’re beautiful way’ and try to flirt. Since you don’t have much experience, you might feel awkward. Just touch her, not super sexually, just lightly on the shoulder or push her hair out of her face. Make her feel wanted!
I don’t think there’s anything else you can add to the date, because since you aren’t together yet, you don’t want to do anything too extravagant.
You sound like a really great guy! This girl is lucky. =) And she obviously likes you if she’s coming over to your house alone.
I have noticed more and more over the years that a lot of people do not teach their children how to cook, clean, or even do laundry and I wish understand the reasoning behind this.
I would think that teaching your children these skills would be a valuable asset in their adult lives.
And I’m not just talking about new parents today, I know people who cannot do any of these things that are 18 years old and all the way up to 45 years old.
So when I do ask them "Why do you eat out everynight?, Why don’t you cook?, Why do you have to take your laundry to a cleaning service?", do you know what kind of responses I get?
"I don’t know how., No one ever showed me how to do it., We had somebody else do it for us."
What sense does this make?
And please, before I have to hear about the fact that I don’t have children, I grew up in a large family and being the oldest, I had to help raise and take care of my siblings. And all of us know how to do these basic things.
For those who asked what is my basis for this, here are a few examples.
Example 1: My mother has a neighbor who is 45 Years old and his mother comes over 6 days a week to do his laundry, buy groceries, cleans his house and takes out his garbage.
Example 2: My ex who is 25 years old never had to do anything in the house when he was growing up, so when we moved in together you could imagine what I came home to on after the 1st day.
Example 3: A 33 year old coworker of mine eats out every meal of the day, and doesn’t even know how to make a sandwich at home.
It seems that your examples could also be a cause of laziness and dependency, however, I know what you mean. My children (8 & 3) help me do the household chores. Yes, they are supervised when using solvents or machinery, but my 8 year old knows how to operate the washing machine, does the dusting (she loves to dust, go figure!), vacuums the house, mops the floor, washes windows, and cleans the bathroom counters all without complaining… because she understands that these things need doing, and that Mommy is not going to do it all by herself. Why should I? Her dad is also teaching her how to cook (I don’t like to cook, so that is my hubby’s job). The 3 year old feeds the dog, helps me unload the dishwasher, also loves to dust (it must be the neat duster we have), and picks up her toys every day. This is just how it is in our family, so they know no different. I want them to be able to be self-sufficient when they get older. I also want them to have respect for all the chores that must be done, and for the people that do them daily (like mom!) We have a chore choice chart at home, and the kids get to choose their own chores to do each week. It is a laminated sheet that we can write on with a dry erase pen, and each week, we start with a blank page. Each person can choose to do whatever chore they want, provided that they all get checked off during the week. My oldest likes this, and tries to get her favorite chores before anyone else does… which is great, since it makes her do it quickly and motivates her. My hubby’s best friend still lives at home (33), has mom do his laundry and basically take care of him. I don’t want my kids to be living at home when they are 45! : )
i know all children are different due to maturity, but what age did you allow your children to cook?
some where between 10 & 12
tall enough to see into a pot on the stove..
the oven she made cookies at 10
somewhere about 14 she did the turkey dinner for thanks giving with lots of Help from all of us..
I divorced when she was 17…
she is the light of my life she is 42..
thank you for the tear ..
The Easy Bake oven is the main one. You can buy all kinds of kitchen accessories such as pots and pans, dishes, cake mixes, cupboards, etc.
I have never really wanted to work, I would much prefer to be supported financially by my husband and have children. I recently said this in my Gender Studies class and I received a lot of glares. As a woman, I believe my role is to raise children, as well as cook for my husband and children and take care of the household…why can’t people accept this? And where will I find a man who desires me to do this as well?
If the stereotypical roles created by your grandparents and all the generations that preceded them had not been structured as they were, the freedom of choice you now enjoy would not have come about. The whining and mewling and puking that prevails today would easily have disappeared in their generations as the women who complained enough did. It is an irony that women of today demand equal rights with men, but when they get them, all they do is complain. This is true because you cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong. This is true for both sexes of all centuries and it is as true today as it was then. The strong will of both sexes prevails through the choices they make and through their willingness to see to it that their choices do shape the future their desires command. If you wish to be a stereotypical housewife of the ilk your grandparents were then, by all means, get up your gumption and go, gal. You can start by not listening to the exhortations of those of either sex that stand in your way. After all, most of the naysayers don’t pack the gear to rise to the level you aspire to that made this country great in the first place. Shoot ‘em down by setting an example they cannot, and will not, live up to. All talk and no do will always lead to only more failure. Don’t let your sun go down in a wash of words. Yours is a proven noble goal. Stick to it.
in my real world class(learn about cooking,money,etc.) i was in the group with the mentally handicapped, cause i’m new and they haven’t figured everything out, the teacher wouldn’t let us do an easy paper that we were SUPPOSED to do, and when we got to making our project she would tell us to do one thing, just to tell us to go do something else, what were we doing, why are you standing, you haven’t done this yet, this still needs to be done, and this, its not going to work.When you are working, she yells at you, as all the other kids are having fun. When you aren’t working shes yelling at you. all in this raising bloodpressure voice. this was in like a half hour period, and i just wonder how is she not fired? she is also the person who watches people in detention.
ugh, stupid me, i always thought paras were supposed to help!
I really want to report this @!#&
The saddest thing I saw once while I was a high school student, 14 years ago. There was a student in a wheelchair sleeping, and left alone in a dark room. I felt so sad for the student not being supervised by anyone.
I hate fish, I always have. It makes me retch, but I don’t want to pass that on to my children. Does anyone have any tips of recipes or easier ways to cook fish for children? I have seen ‘boil-in-the-bag’ fish mentioned on here, but I haven’t seen it in the UK – or has someone seen it here?
Thanks.
denise – great tip with the water/vinegar mix, I will certainly be trying that!
Buy any frozen fish portions (unbreaded) white fish will have less odour. Pop it in some tinfoil (make a sealed parcel) with a little stock/herbs/seasoning of any kind that your kids like and bake until flakey – can then mix this in with potatoes or whatever else suits.
Good luck!
I want to learn to cook well and i am 13. I can dice, cut, boil and actually do alot of things. but i dont know how to cook or what to cook. I would prefer to use carrots and potatoes but it has to be quick and easy because i already cut carrots and potatoes. any recipes or websites for kid cooking? anything wil help.
Hey,
These two websites have some easy and good recipes for kids to try out if you want to check them out:
http://www.easy-kids-recipes.com/easy-recipes.html
http://www.childrensrecipes.com/
This is a yummy easy recipe using diced potatoes:
Golden Diced Potatoes
| 45 min | 15 min prep |
This is a recipe I got out of a Tastes of Home cookbook and then tweaked to our tastes. They taste just like seasoned potato wedges and would be great served with some ranch or ketchup, but they are a bit more grown up than eating the wedges. They are simple to make and look great too!
SERVES 4 (change servings and units)
Ingredients
3/4 cup flour
1 teaspoon seasoning salt
1/2 teaspoon onion powder
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
1/4 teaspoon pepper
1/4 teaspoon cumin
1/4 teaspoon paprika
3 large potatoes, peeled and cut into 1/2 inch cubes
1/2 cup butter
Directions
1In a large resealable plastic bag, combine first seven ingredients.
2Add 1/2 cup potatoes at a time, shake to coat.
3In two large skillets (you need two so you can fit them all in without overlapping) melt half the butter in each.
4Add potatoes, cook and stir over medium heat for 25-30 minutes or until potatoes are tender.
5. Enjoy
This is one using diced carrots thats also really good:
Easy Cheesy Peas & Carrots
1/8 cup milk
1/2 cup cottage cheese
1/3 cup cream cheese
1/8 cup shredded mild Cheddar cheese
1/4 cup soft cooked peas
1/8 cup diced cooked carrots
Parmesan Cheese
Shredded mozzarella cheese
What you do:
Blend milk and cheeses together until smooth, then stir in peas and carrots.
Sprinkle with Parmesan cheese and shredded mozzarella cheese.
Hope this helps out some!
What if we made it illegal for women to be in the workforce and back to the custody of their children? Food prices would plummet, children would have some parental oversight, and no sexual harrassment chances. Men would have to be the only bread winners again. Old values would ultimately return to society!!!
i agree with it and married women know their husband isn’t cheating with slut co-workers, and yes prices would plummet.
I’m doing sausage rolls, mince pies and shortbread biscuits with the kids this weekend as they all love baking. What else could they make connected with Xmas? They’re 5, 8 and 9 years old. Thanks
Wow! I’m impressed with all the ideas and have given the choice to the kids on what they’d like to make – hoping each of them don’t choose different ones lol. Merry Xmas 
Choccie yule log, Xmas pudding, ginger bread men with icing scarves, Xmas tree Shrewsbury biscuits, snowball cake (aka rounded chocolate cake decorated in dessicated coconut) and party favours wrapped in coloured paper to look like presents. You can look all of these recipes up online.
Hope some of that helps and good luck